what is more superficial? determining whether to date someone using a list of qualities that you're looking for, or simply by looks? for example, if u go out with someone who has the typical qualities of a good guy (good job, smart etc), but don't find him attractive, is that less superficial than going out with someone who u think is attractive, but doesn't have those qualities?

i'm not saying either one is wrong or right, but imo, first impressions are far more important than a criteria of desirable qualities. im sure we'd all hate to admit it, but looks is the first thing that draws u to the other person, and in most cases it is the determining factor in how far a date/relationship can go.